This blog post (below) and Scripture must have caught me at the right moment. Mind blown.
1 Corinthians 7:3-5 – especially verse 4
3 The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband.
Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife.
5 Do not deprive each other, except by mutual consent and for a time, so you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again, so that Satan will not tempt you through your lack of self-control.
1 Corinthians 7:3-5